Shame, Guilt, Fear, Pressure & Refusal. The Former Smoker.

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Was there a reason for you to stop tobacco use?

I’ve asked you that very question. Interestingly enough, you’ve answered! Health  reasons and MANY other answers to stop tobacco use from family members having cancer to having children come up.

For this blog specifically, I’ve chosen the ones I felt expressed guilt, shame, pressure or “refusal” to stop tobacco use.

REFUSAL.

You’ll see that shortly. These are YOUR voices. Your comments.


Keep in mind, we’re vaping. We’ve stopped smoking- for the most part – stopped tobacco use, and the Governments, Public Health & more are all on the boat to criticizing us for NOT smoking.

Imagine how they’re trying to shame, guilt and pressure us AGAIN

for something that is NOT smoking.

I’m doing my best – with your help, to not let that happen.


Was there a reason for you to stop tobacco use?

I’m going to let these answers speak for themselves.

 

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Unedited as you left them, so far – over 2,000 of you from 47 countries around the world are speaking out again.

I’ve chosen but a few comments left on the survey so far.


Needed to stop “stinking”, my selfesteem got too low, withdrew from social settings

was even refused medical treatments while smoking

First time family asked was a bad experience said I would never do it again. Second, girl friend at the time,now she’s my wife, dragged me kicking to a vape shop tried a few flavors in two weeks was able to buy all the stuff needed and was off cigs totally.

I cried myself to sleep MANY nights fearing I would never be able to quit smoking cigarettes

My granddaughter at age 20 months saw me smoke for the first time, March of 2015. I not to smoke inside her parents house, I always went out side. She and I were outside. I was standing 20 feet from her. I was smoking. She squished up her face that she could smell my cigarette and she said, No No, NO gamma, * oh the Shame, I put it out instantly, that I then was god I wish there was a miracle that I could quit! – it came the next month.

For me, my family pleaded with me for years to quit, my wife pleaded with me constantly to at least try to quit. Inside, after failing so many times to quit, I felt hopeless and alone. Dying by my own hand, and felt somewhat left out by the medical community at large. The condemnation by my doctor for still smoking was a sting to me.

How could nobody  understand how much I was affected by the absence of even small doses of nicotine. The rage and mental fuzziness that  I experienced from the total lack of nicotine fell on deaf, or condescending ears. Was it something inherently wrong with me? No, My brain had been forever altered when my mother smoked to term with me, and I was pre-destined for a nicotine addiction. Not my fault, and nothing morally wrong with the consequence of this. I am just one who is in need of nicotine for normal brain function. Vaping offers this to me, with the added benefit of harm reduction.

I was being shamed and guilted into trying to stop by society. I was a second class citizen as a smoker; discriminated against in a way which would be illegal if it were done to any other section of society. I was happier smoking for the perceived benefits of the habit – weighed less, less depressed, less stressed – but hassled endlessly by the anti smoking propaganda.

My children wanted me to quit so i would be around for a long time. Since quitting i am able to play with my kids without getting winded as easily.

I thought I enjoyed smoking, but knew it was not healthy and felt shame that I could not just give it up. I made quit attempts, but I wanted to smoke more than I wanted to stop.

around 1980 -kids were little and many in my peer (church) group did not smoke

I was total that surgeons will not operate on smokers, being obese doesn’t help as well.

My boyfriend and I went too a party one night and we were the ONLY smokers there; everyone else was vaping, we went into our local b&m the next day and made the switch.

i felt dirty using cigarettes.

Due to the constant persecursion of smokers and not being able to smoke anywhere.

The more nagging by government,employers workmates the more determined I was not to quit.


Those are just a FEW examples of what you’ve said. YOUR voices.

I thank you for it.


See Ecigarette Research.Org here

See M.O.V.E. Here.


As always, Keep On Vaping On

Kevin.

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